In my career as a life coach, I often deal in counter-intuitive information. You know, the kind of stuff that seems like it would have the opposite effect of what you want, but actually ends up getting you closer to your goal. And, more often than not, I throw out counter-intuitive nuggets about dating and relationships…because it’s one of those confusing, messy arenas where the opposite of what you think works, well, works.
This is one of those times.
So, I’m guessing at one point or another you’ve heard about, read about or somehow experienced The Law of Attraction. It’s the age-old adage of “energy attracting like energy,” which probably means little or nothing to you, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Well, the truth is, you can easily “turn on” your ability to attract “like energy” (aka: your next great love).
How? Start clearing out space.
Let me explain. You, as a human composed of matter and energy, have the ability to attract or repel other matter and energy. If you doubt that, I invite you to read “The Secret” or watch any of Gabrielle Bernstein’s videos about manifesting, or just do some quick Googling. In fact, I bet you’ve had at least one big experience in your life that felt eerily coincidental, or perfectly timed, or statistically impossible. Chances are, whatever happened, you attracted it unconsciously. You’re far more powerful than you think you are.
So, if you’re that powerful of an attractor (which you are!), then it makes sense that to get the things you want (as in, your next great love), you need to have the space to receive it. There are tons of things in life (money, jobs, love, etc.) that you may be attracting, but that you can’t yet receive because you haven’t made room for it in your life. This is where it gets counter-intuitive, because most people don’t understand that to get what you want, sometimes doing less (or getting rid of something) is the best way to get it.
When it comes to relationships, we often bemoan the fact that we can’t find a great relationship, or can’t understand why we’re always single, or why nothing ever works out for us…and we don’t realize that we haven’t made space for what we actually want. Namely, because there’s some habit or pattern or person that’s taking up all of the space that should be reserved for what (or who) you really want.
So, here’s the big question (that I hope you’ll answer honestly): What are you holding on to that’s taking up your space?
Is it an ex-boyfriend? A dating pattern based on low self-esteem and self-worth? A relationship with someone who’s only half-heartedly into it (or that you’re only half into?)
In my next post, I’ll dive in to some more strategies and tactics for “clearing space,” energetically speaking, so stay tuned.
Rachel East is a professional life coach who works with women in their 20s and 30s. Have a comment? Want to try a free breakthrough coaching session? Email her at: contact@project20something.com.
